When I struggle or I’m working through something (whether it’s a deep relational issue, cranky kids, or a pile of laundry), the first place my mind goes to is, “Okay, what do I need to do here to make this better?”
Usually the answers I come up with are along the lines of: be nicer to the kids, get that load of laundry done, try to change my thought and behaviour patterns, respond differently next time, etc. etc.
But I recently figured out that I’ve been asking the wrong question.
God spoke to me last week about this. I was feeling overwhelmed and all over the place, and about to go over the same old mantras of figuring out what I need to do to fix it. God gently said to me, “it’s not about doing, it’s about letting go”.
So He said that in those moments, I need to ask Him:
What do I need to let go of?
See, doing just puts more pressure on. And typically, the only reason I am wanting and needing to do something different is because the pressure is already on. Another thing to do really doesn’t help.
But letting go of something? I can do that. I need to do that.
Sometimes the thing we need to let go of is something concrete: an added task that pushes your day over the edge, a toxic relationship, a box of junk that just clutters up your space.
And sometimes the thing we need to let go of is an expectation: an expectation that my to-do list is empty, or that my house will stay clean, or that my kids will behave perfectly.
Doing puts pressure on. Letting go takes it away.
Doing fills my plate. Letting go clears it.
Doing makes me tired. Letting go helps me to breathe again.
Doing is a burden. Letting go lightens the load.
The great thing about this is that even when we don’t know the answer to this question, if we will quiet ourselves and listen, we have a good, good Father who will tell us. He always knows what we have been holding on to that is not good for us. He knows what we need.
So, what do you need to let go of today?
Trust me, you’ll feel lighter when you give it up. 🙂