What it actually means to be pro-life


To be pro-life means you are advocating for a life, not just a birth.

Abortion is one of those controversial topics that has a huge influence on the way people vote.  I can’t remember any election in recent years in which the “pro-life vs. pro-choice” issue wasn’t a part.  And there is certainly no shortage of passion coming from either side of the argument.

In all the articles that fill our social media newsfeeds, and all the televised debates, one question that always remains in my head is, “What happens to those babies?”

You might assume that this question is referring to all the fetuses cut out of their mothers’ wombs and disposed of.  That’s a real concern for many.  I certainly share the concern.

But you know what?  I have a larger concern for those babies who’s lives we are advocating for.  I’m asking about all the babies who live.  Where do they go?  What happens to THEM?

When a woman chooses abortion, she does not want a baby.  Simply telling her she should – or has to – remain pregnant and birth her baby solves very few problems in my mind. It’s great that she remained pregnant and gave birth.  But now we have a baby that wasn’t wanted.

A baby that wasn’t wanted, grows into a child that wasn’t wanted, and becomes an adult that isn’t wanted.

It’s all fine and good to fight for the life of a precious, innocent infant.  But when that infant grows into the behaviourally-challenged bully that targets your child in the classroom, or becomes the drunk, homeless man who stinks and begs you for change on your way to work everyday (“and why doesn’t he get a damn job like the rest of us do!”), it’s not so cute anymore.  It’s not so simple anymore.

We want babies, but we don’t want needy adults who are a drain on society.  We want babies, but we don’t want to get messy.

I’m not saying that every unwanted baby become a bully, a homeless man or a prostitute. Certainly that’s the extreme.  What I AM saying is that it is not right to advocate for lives just to the point that they make it out of the womb, and then think your job is done.  Regardless of the socio-economic status of the mother involved.  I am saying that to be pro-life means we stand for life – the mother’s, the infant’s, and whoever that infant becomes in the future.

Being against abortion means that we are going to have many babies – people – born among us who were not wanted.  Being against abortion means we will have women in our midst who need support and help.  Being against abortion means being willing to foster a child, adopt a child, or to simply step up to help a mom.  Maybe it means volunteering with the Big Brothers and Big Sisters.  Maybe it means supporting a single mom financially.  Maybe it means working with a ministry that helps street people find and secure jobs.  Maybe it means being available to babysit for the worn out mom who didn’t want another child.

One thing I know for sure, is being pro-life DOESN’T mean sporting a sign outside an abortion clinic or sharing a Facebook post to voice your opinion, without any intention to support a mother with an unwanted pregnancy or a child who WAS the unwanted pregnancy.

I know that I want to be pro-LIFE – and all that it entails – and not just pro-birth.   Lord, help me be okay to get messy.


“I do not believe that just because you’re opposed to abortion, that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. And why would I think that you don’t? Because you don’t want any tax money to go there. That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is.”

-Sister Joan Chittister

4 thoughts on “What it actually means to be pro-life

  1. Agent X November 17, 2016 / 10:04 PM

    I am trying to remember … seems like I got it from Tony Campolo… a story about a pastor in Colorado Springs told his flock that the church can end abortion tomorrow if we took out full page ads in newspapers all over the nation stating that we will take any unwanted baby in any condition anytime – no questions asked no condemnation. But that we don’t put our money where our mouth is… therefore abortion continues.

    No… that does not address your point exactly, but it is closely related, I think. Wish I could site it for you…

    Thanx for this post. I am a homeless minister in Lubbock, Texas. I have spent the last dozen years on the streets. The last 7 years reaching out to street homeless. And this past year our family has begun taking in foster children – another kind of homeless.

    Divorce is a kind of homelessness too, btw.

    But I am richly blessed by your post. Encouraged. Thank you for publishing this.

    Agent X
    Fat Beggars School of Prophets
    Lubbock, Texas (USA)


    • theabundantlife November 18, 2016 / 8:01 AM

      Hello! Actually, what you said addresses my point exactly. We have ideals but no action to back it. We require something of the “least of these”, but only stick around long enough to get our opinions out.

      I read a bit of your blog. Funny, I was just saying to my husband that Street ministry is such a passion of mine. I love your thoughts, and more importantly, your action. I’ve spent some time in the inner city of Edmonton, Alberta, and absolutely love the people and their heart. I have a story of miraculous healing of a woman’s legs I have in process right now. Hoping to share soon.

      I am now following your blog. Hope we can keep in touch.

      Many blessings,


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  2. MissAmpedUpSpeed February 25, 2018 / 2:31 AM

    I proudly say being pro-choice and having an abortion, preventing the further development of an organism to a possible child is far more kind and loving than what was done to me- abortion is not murder, and sometimes the right choice may be hard, but never would i subject an innocent child to a life of even just abandonment or adoptive families… it is so much more than that, QUALITY of life is what matters… kids aren’t punishments women must bring forth, and we all deserve better than being given away. i am not attacking the birth mothers at all; i understand they are victims too… but i have had 2 abortions and i will again if my birth control fails me and my husband again as that is what my mom should have done…but she was only 14 and had no money herself…. but as an adult i know that is the morally responsible thing to do… not damn someone to end up like me.


    • theabundantlife February 25, 2018 / 4:12 PM

      Thank you for your thoughts! It is certainly a tricky situation. As an adopted person, I am thankful my mom didn’t have an abortion, yet I also had a hard road because of it. I think women like our mothers needed support and people who would help them be good mothers. I really appreciate you weighing in – we need to hear all sides and your opinion is valued here.


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